Tuesday, December 29, 2009
Facebook and Phone Etiquette
Can someone please help me out with manners for Facebook and cellphones in terms of the following issue: How long should you keep someone's contact information in your cellphone? How long do you keep someone as a friend on Facebook...even if you have no point in hearing from them or stopped hearing from them for months? Are there "rules" for the removal of info/former friends?
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I don't think there are really any rules as far as I know. It is pretty much up to your own discretion, I think. If you have no point in hearing from them or have stopped hearing them for months, I can't see why they would be upset if you removed them. Just my opinion. I don't know if there's any "official" etiquette rules on this or not.
Thanks, Daisy...I had something interesting happen today that made me wonder. I met someone this past summer who had girlfriend potential but she lives four hours away. We exchanged e-mails, talked on the phone, and became friends on Facebook. However, after realizing that a long distance relationship wasn't going to work, I wondered how long do I keep this woman as a contact in my phone?
Not too long after I said a long distance relationship wasn't going to work, she started a relationship with someone she met. Not that that matters but in terms of having any kind of contact with me, now it was pointless.
This afternoon, I was at the mall and I got a text message from a number I didn't recognize. Yep, you guessed it. It's this woman I met last summer who was on the turnpike on the way to Pennsylvania. She texted that she was passing Toledo, which prompted me to text back, "???? Who is this? No name is coming up on my phone." She responded with her name and I think she might have been offended that I didn't keep her name/number in my phone.
If she is in a relationship with someone else and things didn't work out between you two, I don't know why she would expect you to hang on to her number. I would think that she would realize that you would move on if there was no chance of a relationship developing between the two of you.
Not much you can do about it now, if she was offended, but I don't really think she has any reason to feel that way. Maybe she still has or had feelings for you that you were unaware of, but I think that she's being unrealistic if she does.
I think since this was a mutual decision that a relationship wouldn't work, you were right in deleting her number from your phone. I don't think that there was any reason for her to be offended in your deleting it, especially if she knew how organized a person you are.
Who said you could delete my number from your cell phone? I'm turning you into Miss Manners!
Daisy and Cliff,
Thanks. While I might not be the most organized person (I wish I was better in this area.), I just didn't see the need to keep her as a contact. We didn't develope a relationship. We weren't business partners. I didn't see a point in keeping her as a contact.
Anyway, always good to get an outside point of view.
Struke
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